Well-matched in social status (Men Dang Hu Dui) and Marriage compatibility (He Hun): The Modern Significance of Traditional Marriage Views and the destiny analysis (Ming Li) Dimension | Xuan Xue (mystical studies) Encyclopedia

The ancient "Mendang" and "Hudui" are actually two parts of ancient architecture: ① Mendang: the two stone piers in front of the Main Door (Da Men). The military official's house is a round stone drum (like a war drum), and the civil official's house is Square (Si Fen Xiang). ② Household pairs: The two Wood (Mu) carvings/brick carvings above The Main Door (Da Men). The more there are, The higher The official status (The Emperor (Huang Di) 9 pairs, Prince 7 pairs, Official 5-3 pairs, Commoner 1 pair). Therefore, the zi (courtesy name) of "Well-matched in social status (Men Dang Hu Dui)" The meaning of Overthinking (Si) is that the social Earth Position (Di Wei) and official quality of the two families are close. "Well-matched in social status (Men Dang Hu Dui)" in ancient Marriage compatibility (He Hun) It also includes: ③ Family background: whether it is an Incense (Xiang) family, an official family, or a farming and reading family; ④ Wealth Earth Position (Di Wei): How much land you own, how big your business is, and the matching of bride price and dowry; ⑤ Family Wind (Feng) door Wind (Feng): Do the Ancestors (Zu Shang) have any bad records, are they clean white (Bai) people, and is the family upbringing strict? ⑥ Ba zi (courtesy name) Matching: Whether the two Ba zi (courtesy name) are compatible, and whether the Animal sign (Sheng Xiao) is compatible. The ancients believed that "marrying low is worse than marrying high," because they were afraid that too much difference in family status would cause problems after marriage. Vital energy (Qi).

The modern version of "Well-matched in social status (Men Dang Hu Dui)" no longer looks at family status and wealth, but at the deeper east (Dong) west (Xi), which are the key to determining the longevity of a marriage: ① [Value Matching]: attitude towards money (savers vs. living paycheck to paycheck), definition of success (making a lot of money vs. Average (Ping) everyday life), expectations for marriage (Men working outside the home and women working at home vs. Men and women Average (Ping)), views on parenting (strict education vs. happy education); ②[Consumption View Matching]: Do you think a meal costing 300 yuan per person is expensive or convenient? Should I stay at Five Stars of the face (Wu Xing) or green/Blue (Lan Se)? Spending money on travel, studying, skincare, or games doesn't hurt your Heart. There are so many differences in consumer values that every Heaven (Tian) has to argue; ③【Living habits (Sheng Huo Xi Guan) Matching】: Going to bed early vs. staying up late? Cleanliness vs. sloppiness? Eating spicy food versus not eating spicy food? Staying at home vs. loving to go out? These "little things" are the most annoying; ④ [Education level strong / supporting (Xiang) near]: There is too much difference in education level (Scholar (Bo Shi) vs. primary school), and the topics and Overthinking (Si) dimensions are hugely different, making it difficult to communicate; ⑤ [Simple Family (Jia Ting) Relationship]: Does the other party's Family (Jia Ting) have complex kinship relationships, are there any Brothers (Xiong Di), Sisters (Jie Mei), or Parents (Fu Mu) who are holding them back? Are they reasonable? Marriage is a union of two families (Jia Ting), not a matter for two people. ⑥【Metal (Jin) Money Earth Position (Di Wei) strong / supporting (Xiang) Dang】: It doesn't mean that you have to be equally rich, but the difference shouldn't be too big (one side earns a million yuan a year and the other 50,000 yuan a year). If the difference is too big, you won't have enough say. Average (Ping), etc.

From the perspective of destiny studies (Ming Li Xue), "Well-matched in social status (Men Dang Hu Dui)" The "Pattern (Ge Ju) level" of two Characters must be strong/supporting (Xiang): ①Pattern (Ge Ju) Hierarchy: Full lattice paired with full lattice, Quaker lattice paired with Quaker lattice, ordinary Destiny (Ming) lattice paired with ordinary Destiny (Ming) lattice, most suitable for Yi (2nd Heavenly Stem) "same frequency"; ②strong or weak Self (Zi Xing) matching: Strong body matches weak body (Shen Qiang Pei Shen Ruo) Optimal (one strong and one weak complement each other) Strong Day Master (Ri Chen) and Strong Day Master (Ri Chen) allow Change/Yi (2nd Heavenly Stem) to argue; ③Favorable useful god complement (Xi Yong Shen Hu Bu): Two people's Ba zi (courtesy name) Five Elements (Wu Xing) can be mutually strong / supporting (Xiang) Making up for each other's shortcomings – Neighboring (Bi) If one party lacks Water (Shui) and the other party is Water (Shui) prosperous (Wang), it is a Heaven-made match (Tian Zuo Zhi He); ④ Great Fortune (Yun) synchronization: Great Fortune (Yun) from two people, Wei Goat (Wei). The best trend is a "sweet (Gan) and bitter (Ku)" pattern—both can be good Fortune (Yun) or bad Fortune (Yun), and one should not get better and the other worse, otherwise the Yi (2nd Heavenly Stem) will be out of sync. ⑤ In reality, many Ba zi (courtesy name) and Pattern (Ge Ju) Characters in "wealthy family marriages" are matched—even if there are no feelings at the beginning, they can cultivate family affection and tacit understanding after marriage. On the contrary, those "Cinderella marries into a wealthy family" Ba zi (courtesy name) mostly have mismatched Pattern (Ge Ju) levels, and either they can't get married, or even if they do, they are affected by Vital energy (Qi).

Why did the ancients say, "It's better to marry low than high"? Because marriages that are not "Well-matched in social status (Men Dang Hu Dui)" are Wind (Feng) The risk is very high: ① [Gao Pan's Wind (Feng) risk (the party with poorer conditions)]: He has no say in his in-laws' family, has to endure everything, no one listens to him, is looked down upon by his in-laws, and his family members are also affected by Vital energy (Qi); The other person has a sense of superiority, is tolerant of Yi (2nd Heavenly Stem) Infidelity (Chu Gui), and doesn't take you seriously; ②【Wind (Feng) risk of marrying down (the better-off party)】: Giving too much is taken for granted by the other party, the other party has strong self-esteem (Heart (Xin), is sensitive to Yi (2nd Heavenly Stem), argues, the other party's family treats you like a Money Tree (Yao Qian Shu), the poverty alleviation marriage drags you down (Ji (Earth) (Ji); ③【Common Wind (Feng) Insurance】: Arguments caused by differences in consumption concepts (Incipient Moment (Ji) of a meal costing 100 yuan, who will feel the pain); Contradictions caused by differences in Living habits (Sheng Huo Xi Guan)); Disagreements caused by Value differences (Jia Zhi Guan Cha Yi) (to Parents (Fu Mu)) (How much, whether relatives will lend money or not); ④ [Exceptions]: If the partner who marries is actually of a very high Pattern (Ge Ju) level (it's just that their Fortune (Yun)Vital energy (Qi) is temporarily bad/their family background is not good), and the other party (the partner with better/worse conditions) is of good character and reasonable, this can also lead to happiness - but this situation is a minority, and most people "find people of whatever level they are at".

Finally, it must be said that being Well-matched in social status (Men Dang Hu Dui) is important, but not a necessary condition for marital happiness: ① I've seen too many husbands and wives (Fu Qi) who are Well-matched in social status (Men Dang Hu Dui) but practically strangers— No matter how wealthy or compatible a family is, if two people lack feelings and communication, they will suffer greatly. ② I have also seen many husbands and wives (Fu Qi) with very different circumstances but who are happy and fulfilling - they share the same values, cherish each other, grow together, and the gap can be narrowed together; ③ What truly determines marital happiness are the character, sense of responsibility, communication skills, and willingness to give their hearts to each other—these... Neighboring (Bi)"Well-matched in social status (Men Dang Hu Dui)" Ten thousand times more important; ④ The right attitude: When looking for a partner, consider the Pentad/five-day period (Hou): first consider character, then values, and finally... "Well-matched in social status (Men Dang Hu Dui)"--Well-matched in social status (Men Dang Hu Dui) It's a plus, not a deciding factor; ⑤ Final sentence: The best "Well-matched in social status (Men Dang Hu Dui)" are two independent and mature souls who respect, understand, and support each other, working together to build a better life. Living well—this kind of marriage, regardless of its beginning, will become happier and happier.